IT's Okay To Lose Friends.

We lose friends for a variety of reasons. 

But, guess what?

 It's OKAY. 

Things like that are bound to happen in our lives, of course it is not something we would choose to go through but sometimes it is something that we all need. 

WHY?

Because going through the wrong friendships makes you learn how to appreciate the ones that are still here and we learn how to cherish them even more because they accept you as a whole person despite your barbarism. In someways we also learn how to do some self reflect on what we've done wrong and it gives us the opportunity to grow better not just as a friend to someone but as a whole person. 

I've lost a couple of friends, actually best friends in my life which I would not mention names because I do not believe in the act of exposing someone just because they wronged us before. Of course in the bygone days when the incident happened I was irritated and frustrated that I told a few people and now coming to think of it, I wished I hadn't if I could reverse time because it does not benefit me or anyone else. For that, I apologized. 

Of course losing your bestfriend makes you feel like its the end of the world because basically treating them like family means telling them your darkest secrets. And just so happen when things get messy, we feel betrayed and things get overwhelming. 

There are a few ways to deal with losing friends. First of all :

SELF CHECK

Maybe it was because of something you said or done that has caused someone to avoid you. Everyone's level of sensitivity is different ,so we need to  be sensitive enough to know our friend's limit to avoid making them feel horrible. Things like that can turn out to be serious, taking this scene as an example : You jokingly tell your friend to shut up when they ask you a question or when they are in the middle of stating something. Once awhile it is fine but do not make it a habit just because someone might be okay with it most of the time but somewhere down the road at the wrong timing they might take it seriously, which leads to unnecessary arguments that could have been avoided.

Above all that,  I'm sure that's not how you respect your friendship. 

COMMUNICATE.

I would always suggest meeting up and talking things through so in that way there is no communication barrier in between or any misunderstanding just because one forgets to use an emoji or someone's WIFI suddenly gets cut off (cause we all know TM sucks balls on rainy days). 

 And besides, meeting up it would be much more sincere. 

MOVE ON.

I'm not asking you to sit a bullet train and whooooooooooshhhhhh there, gone. If you need time , you have all the time you need but remember to not dwell too long. Give yourself the green card to miss someone because after all there are good times that we hold dearly. Remember to not be too hard on yourself because somehow at some situations you need to understand that it might not be your fault because ultimately people change, for the better or for worst it is beyond our control. It could also be you outgrowing the late bloomers and because both of you are so used to have the same thoughts and perspective, changes might not be acceptable for one of you. 

Everyday we're changing, we're growing and we are learning. We just need to take things lightly sometimes. We learn from our mistakes and change them and experience different ways  that might help us grow in better directions. 

Down the road we might still lose a few friends but we will also gain people who might stay in our lives forever. 

So now, just chill :)

Till then, much love. :)