Virginity.

Has any of your friends judge someone that is no longer a virgin? I admit I have.

Have you look at someone and say "OMGOSH SHE IS A SLUT"

But if your best friend or your close friend is not a virgin you'll have a different perspective and probably go like "OH WELLS YOU REALLY DID LOVE HIM ANYWAYS , DON'T BE TOO HARD ON YOURSELF"

My point here is, how does it effect you whether one is or one isn't? And who gives you the utmost right to give any opinion on one who isn't?  

I understand that Malaysia is much more conservative compared to any other country. Hence, it could be the reason why we judge. Then again, have we ever asked ourselves who the hell are we to those people?

We often call people slut without even knowing the true meaning of that word, aren't we already making a fool out of ourselves? It is so easy for us to point fingers at others and think that we all know that person through stalking their facebook or listening through gossip about who they are. We judge yet we take no actions or initiative to get to know people ourselves.  

My simple definition of the word "Slut" is someone who is taken yet sleeps around with different guys. Again, that is just a definition. What is wrong if someone is sexuality active and what is wrong if someone's hobby is having intercourse? 

Don't get me wrong here that I have no self-respect or thinking that virginity is not important or whatsoever. 

It is true as women we need to learn how to take care of ourselves and love ourselves and hold on to our worth. But it is also important that as a women we need to love other women and try to be in their shoes to really understand what one had went through. 

Some people could have been raped or someone who was naive gave her all to some boy who didn't even look her in the eye when he says he love her. 

To all the girls out there who have been called slut just because some haters couldn't handle how strong you are. You are beautiful , strong and the most outstanding girl. Maybe not in everybody's eye but in mine, you are. Virginity does not define who you are. Bad choices does not define who you are. What defines who you are today is not giving up on life and that you understand that life is not a bed of roses yet that passion in you that drives you to live. That is the beauty in you. 

And to all those girls who loves having intercourse, I am not your mother so i won't judge but just be safe *wink* ;)

Just remember before calling another girl slut, think bout it if someone says that about you are your family member. 

Till then, much love.