WHY EXES TRASH-TALK EACH OTHER?

Didn't we all agree that before committing into a relationship we would take each other's faux pas? 

Like accepting the fact that after one does a pee pee he or she would forget to put the toilet seat up or down and be completely fine about it. 

Too often we make discussions and promises when we are happy. We thought that we are able to handle and compromise everything but in reality the slightest mistakes or habits will drive us up the wall and make us go crazy. 

Now I am applying this to both female and male. I've been through relationships that I thought would last more than a year, truth is I never had those relationships because it's either someone gets tired of me or I'm basically annoyed by my other half and after the whole break-up thing we would tell our friends stories that God knows whether it is accurate or otherwise. 

We would start telling our friends about how sidetrack they are with their work or how they poop and forgot to flush, how they would nag, basically all the nasty stuff. Now don't deny it cause we both know that we talked and have been talked about after every break-up. 

But today, ask yourself this, what is the main purpose of us doing this? 

Dissatisfied ?

Hatred ?

Wanting our friends to side us? 

Now I understand that is it completely allowable for you to feel miserable, after all it is a break-up.

Then again, have you ever thought that if you truly love each other what good does it bring through trash-talking? 

We have to understand that sometimes even though we've place a lot of effort into a relationship doesn't mean that it would turn out the way we planned it to be but that also does not mean that we did not try or give it our best. In a relationship, just when you think that things couldn't get worst sometimes it will, but it could also be the other way round when you think it can't get any better , it can. 

See, life has a tendency to throw curveballs when you least expect them. What I am trying to point out is that, we could either trash-talk about one another and find out later through some mutual friends (whom we may not know, might twist the story worst than it already is) and build up more hatred for one another or we could just choose to look at a brighter side by just saying "OH, things just didn't work out but he was a great guy/lady"

You would ask , what if that person took me for a ride or cheated on me. 

Frankly, that is something no one wants to go through and obviously it is one of the most dreadful feeling.

I wouldn't advice to just keep it all in and be "cool" with it as this is definitely another situation. We could talk or rant to a very close friend of ours and cry to our heart's content and after crying , stop crying for the same reason because this is not worth it. At the same time, I do not support that we talked about this to many different people and start trash-talking (even if they are trashy people. ) 

Be the bigger person and be strong, get over it and move along. When people asked what had happened just simply answer them "I would appreciate it if we drop this, as it is not an appropriate subject to talk about". It gives people a different perspective of you, that you are able to handle a foul situation at top-notch.

"The things you say about others say a lot bout you" 

-unknown.

AND Be happy if someone wrong doesn't want you, cause it'll give more opportunities to those who truly want to be in your life. 

This New Year, be a better you and remember, never settle for less.

Till Then, Much Love.